Hello I’m Janet Simpson,
Welcome to my website. I'm a UK based Relationship Therapist (mix of counsellor, psychotherapist and coach) and Health Education Trainer. I am comfortable with any trauma, taboo or difficult conversation you may present. A conversation is the starting point for healing trauma, preventing trauma & creating meaningful relationships.
As a therapist, I support couples and individuals work through a wide range of issues using counselling and psychotherapy.
I have expertise with:
~Sexual issues: sexual trauma - inc. rape, assault, porn or sex addiction/compulsivity, sexual anxiety, performance anxiety, covert trauma -porn exposure, slut shaming, body image, self-esteem, sexual communication, intimacy issues.
~Grief & loss: unresolved grief, sudden loss, child death, death of caregiver, accumulative grief, transforming grief into honouring, reconnecting to loved one.
~Communication: couples communication, speaking up, consent, boundaries, safety, developing sexual & relational intimacy.
As a coach, I work with women to strip away shame linked to covert trauma, self-image, early trauma and messages. I want you to 'Be Shamelessly You' and for you to pass this on, in some way, to others in the spirit of stewardship.
I take a holistic approach so when working I consider all aspects of trauma (historic, open, covert), somatic response, psychosexual influences, childhood, energetic signature, life purpose and neurological mapping.
As a Health Education Trainer, I offer education around the long and short impact of pornography for children & adults and NOT having Sex Talk early & often with children and in relationships.
I am here to support you create healthy, meaningful relationships.
Love and self-wisdom,
My work is all about open, honest COMMUNICATION.
Why have a conversation in your head? Say what you think.
I can help you create personal FREEDOM and intimate CONNECTION in your relationships.
I can help YOU to be 'Be Shamelessly You' in or out of any relationship.
Therapy - Counselling & Psychotherapy
Relationship Coaching - 'Be Shamelessly You'
Health Education Training - Sex Talk Roadshow
I am updating these blogs.
Why work with me?
Studying myself, others and relationships started as a past time from as early as I can remember. This was due to 'spiritual experiences' in childhood (which I thought everyone had), the early trauma of being adopted (feeling half of me was missing) and NO conversations about sex or sexuality. This study of self in philosophy and psychology developed as a hobby outside of my educational work.
In 2015, counselling & psychotherapy became my full time profession. Of which, I love!
I HAVE PROFESSIONAL AND PERSONAL EXPERTISE.
After an relationship experience with a so called porn or sex addict (really a compulsive user of sex and porn), I focused all my attention in working out why I felt so broken and what the essence of a healthy, loving, meaningful partnership was.
I recognised I had multiple layers of sexual shame due to several traumatic experiences as a child and adult. Part of this trauma was held dormant (Covert Trauma) due to a lack of communication around sex and sexuality. In a way, I was like a sexual mute. It wasn't until I started talking about sex and creating an understanding around my erotic landscape that I felt LIBERATED.
This led to an expertise in sex, porn use and relationships with a understanding of intimacy, a deep sense of compassion for men and a value for the three key components of a most satisfying relationship:
open, honest communication with a value of personal freedom and intimate connection.
I ONLY OFFER WHAT I KNOW TO BE TRUE FROM EXPERIENCE.
Due to being adopted, I created a powerful inner critic with an extreme voice of comparison to avoid being rejected and abandoned again. This was mostly unconscious until it was dramatically revealed in full force through betrayal trauma. The chronic shame of being ME led to debilitating illness.
Another key reason why I am all about stripping back the layers created from the messages of life to ...
BE SHAMELESSLY YOU!
I am now healthy, contented and virtually trigger free even in the most challenging of situations - if you have a family these happen so learning to love the unexpected, finding wisdom from trauma and being able to self regulate quickly is essential.
I CAN FIND OPPORTUNITY AND WISDOM IN ANY TRAUMA OR CRISIS POINT
From my professional work, I have wealth of experiences working with individuals, couples and groups in schools, NHS, private practice and in a local hospice. You will find a list at the bottom of on my 'Be Shamelessly You' page.
I WORK FROM MY HEART TO SERVE YOU AND THE CREATION OF YOUR RELATIONSHIPS