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Relationship Therapy for Couples & Individuals
A space to heal & grow

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Having the same sorts of arguments - feeling like 'Ground Hog Day'?

Are some topics of conversation just NOT being spoken about?

Has grief or loss taken over your relationship?

Feels like one partner doing everything; one partner doing nothing?

Would you like to feel closer to your partner?

Does your relationship require an MOT?

Is your sexual past getting in the way of relationship harmony?

Feeling resentment ... frustration ... anxiety

Has porn use or infidelity potentially ruined your relationship trust?

Do you feel controlled or seeking freedom?

Beach Waves

Relationship Therapy/Couples Counselling

Being in a relationship is the quickest and most effective way to grow as a human or to send you into despair. The process of fully being yourself and being connected in a shared relationship can be totally fulfilling yet it is a tricky balance which sometimes ends up feeling like you are in a knot or knots!

The relationship space where two people meet and share connection can end up being a communication space of conflict, high emotions, frustration and confusion.

I find many couples are communicating in a survival mode and don't realise it. The same argument seem to be repeated and this fuels resentment and frustration.

It could be that an outside event (e.g. grief, porn use, sex issue, family drama) has created conflict in your relationship.

I have expertise in noticing where the unbalance lies, triggers are and the underlying issues, from this offering techniques to untie the knot (s). 

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 I aim to be non-biased to work out the blocks for the growth of the relationship as this is different to working with each individual. 

Becoming aware of what is underneath conflict is the first step to creating some understanding and peace.  

Many couples benefit from some individual sessions to release emotional tension and heal trauma which is impacting the relationship. 

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Individual work

Trauma (Sexual & Non-sexual)

Trauma affects most relationships, if not all, and creates issues.  It could originate in the form of childhood neglect, abandonment or early rejection. From the death of a parent in childhood (open, historic trauma) to body shaming (covert trauma) or sexual trauma (mix of historic, overt or covert trauma). You may even have PTSD. Trauma comes into most sessions in some form.

With any trauma, in particularly sexual trauma, is so important that you feel you can trust me so the sessions may not start with the trauma. It is totally up to you. I want to be led by you and get to know you to build a trusting relationship. It may be useful to work on a somatic level with breath and soothing techniques first which will allow you to release some of the trauma then talk about it. You may never want to talk about it at all. In this case, I can support you to release the emotions and heal the trauma without words or a retelling of the story.

It is worth noting that I do not repeatedly go back into stories as that does not support healing.

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Grief & Loss

Grief and loss comes up in all relationship work. Grief needs to be expressed otherwise it can impact health and communication in your relationship. Loss is part of everyday life and small losses can trigger other losses that have not been emotionally expressed. 

Any grief or loss that is unexpressed has like a build up affect. It is called accumulative grief. I learnt a great deal about grief & loss working in Alder Hey Hospital with clients who had been affected by child death. Most significantly, I learnt that in every crisis/death there is also an opportunity to use this energy to be of service to yourself or another in a deeply meaningful and profound way.

When you have had a death of a loved one as a child this affects all relationships if the grief is unexpressed. Grief blocks love so it is then hard to feel connected to your loved one and use this connection in a beautiful way in your relationships.  I can help you reconnect you to your loved one, find ways to honour them and use their loving energy in your life.  

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Men's Issues & Porn/Sex Compulsivity 

I work a lot with men around issues related to grief, loss, porn use, sex/porn compulsion (addiction), infidelity, sexual anxiety, sexual performance issues, problems getting into relationships, communicating and expressing self in relationships.

I have compassion for men and the issues they face. There seems to be a lot of support for women but not as much for men. It is not as socially or culturally acceptable to express emotions or to seek help. Plus most are unaware of the dynamics of masculine and feminine energy so end up in relationships where they are not the masculine lead and feel powerless.

I often hear men say 'I wish I had booked earlier'. I have witnessed men cry in relief and leave sessions with a far better understanding of themselves and their situation. This is powerful and may take just one or two sessions to open up space for a greater level of self-freedom and improved connection with others. A recent review from a male client after the initial 1 1/2hr session.

Therapy ~ My Approach

The term Therapy derives from the Greek words 'therapeia', the noun, and 'therapeuo', the verb. It has a primary meaning of 'service' 'cure' and 'obedience'.  I see this as a healing service to yourself that requires self-discipline and effective life tools; a professional may be required occasionally to guide you - just like a car sometimes needs a mechanic.

I use a mix of psychotherapy, counselling, coaching and life experiences in a space that is safe and non-judgemental. I value curiosity within a purposeful mix of active listening, relevant psycho-education and proven interventions. I focus on being an observer to help you understand the triggers and rational behind the behaviour of each person in the relationship. I can then invite 

I believe education offers transformation so that forms a key aspect of my approach.

I take a holistic approach as all aspects of you are interconnected: you body, your mind and your energy body. Of which, is influenced by your social and cultural background.

Hence, no one person on this planet is the same no matter what similar experience they have had. 

I find the dynamics of masculine and feminine (action/non action, giving/receiving) energy to be one of the most valuable concepts to explore as that often gives an understanding of the source of issues within a dynamics of freedom and control.

Relationship Therapy traditionally deals with understanding and overcoming issues/events from the past and how it is impacting the present 'here and now'. Whereas, coaching is more about change and action in the present so you are actively creating what you want in the future. Sometimes this overlaps however Relationship Therapy sessions are not coaching sessions. If you are looking for Relationship Coaching, please have a read of my 'Be Shamelessly You' service as that has a focus of change and action creating from the future not an acceptance of the past.

Beach Waves

Issues I have worked with recently in Relationship Therapy

relationship resentment

infidelity

sex addiction/compulsivity

porn addiction/compulsivity

love addiction

performance anxiety

sexual anxiety

living with vaginismus/vulvodynia

grief & loss

rape

managing anxiety

depression

child death

sexual issues

health issues

burnout

trauma

family issues

work issues/stress

eating disorder

loss of identity

out of balance

stress

feeling out of control

stuck in the drama triangle

business/life loss of direction

generally unhappy with life

domestic abuse

parenting

relationship issues/infidelity

spiritual awakening

abandonment

lack of confidence/self esteem

childhood issues

unregulated emotions

adoption

crisis points

impact of suicide

developing sexual greatness

Qualifications & Work Experience

March 2023 - Present  Erotic Blueprint Breakthrough Course   Erotic Freedom Club Miss Jaya, Ian Ferguson

January 2023 Working with Partners of Sex & Porn Addiction/Compulsivity  Paula Hall  Online Masterclass 

November 2022  Working with Relational Shame  Alan Leach

October 2022 - June 2023  Certification in Psychosexual Studies  Tavistock Relationships

February 2022 - The Breakthrough Experience On-line  Dr John Demartini  The Demartini Institute

November 2021 - Effective Safeguarding Supervision in Education  Safeguarding Support UK

March - September 2021: Create Your Destiny, Alchemy for Success Creative Warrior, Mastery – Natural Success Academy  William Whitecloud  On-line based in USA

2021: The Couples Counselling Toolkit – The Counselling Academy 

2021   Superconscious Mastery: transformation, Intuition and Creation  Chris Duncan-Conscious Education  On-line based in Australia

2020 – 2021: Magnetic Mind Certified Coach  Chris Duncan -Conscious Education 

2020:  Accredited Online and Telephone Counselling Course  Counselling Tutor

2020:  Understanding Sex Addiction from a BioPsychoSocial Perspective  The Laurel Centre

2019 – 2020: BSc (Hons) Counselling – Grief and loss; Working with couples  Staffordshire University

2017: CPCAB Level 4 Certificate in Counselling Children  Place2Be Manchester

2016 – 2018: Level 4 Therapeutic Counselling Diploma  Warrington Collegiate

2017 – 2018: Gestalt Therapy Foundation Course  Manchester Gestalt Centre 

2017:  BRIEF Solution Focused Practice Foundation Course  BRIEF – Salford University

2016: Understanding and Working with Child Loss & Bereavement in Counselling and Helping Relationships Open Awards Alder Centre, Alder Hey Hospital

2016: Level 3 Certificate in Counselling Children Place2Be Manchester

1997: Post Graduate Certificate in Education

1996: BSc (Hons) Geography and IT

My work experiences:

March 2021 - Present Founder of Janet Simpson Therapy (Formally Choose to Make Life Easier)

Dec 2016 - March 2022  Part time counsellor of hospital staff and child bereaved clients at the Alder Centre, Alder Hey Children’s Hospital Liverpool – A centre for anyone affected by child death

Sept 2020 - July 2021 Safeguarding Supervisor in a primary school in Liverpool.

Sept 2017 - July 2019  Two years as a school child counsellor 

Sept 1997 - July 2016  Primary school teacher at St Basil's Primary in Widnes

Professional Details:

Accredited member of British Association of Counsellors and Psychotherapists -BACP.

I attend monthly clinical supervision. Fully insured with an up-to-date DBS.

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